Do Harry and Meghan Compete With Each Other?

 

Will the Sussexes Begin to Compete With Each Other?

Harry and Meghan are two very high-profile people and they are what everybody is talking about right now. They are the hot couple, or the hottest couple not only in Hollywood but also in the British Royal Family. They dominate the conversation on both coasts, let's face it. 

They are equally exciting and interesting, and they are equally sought after. This is great, but it could also become problematic if they are not careful. Blame the divorce lawyer in me for being so cautious. But I have seen where couples blow up because both of them got into competition with each other.

The complication here is that Meghan is a strong woman and she was destined for stardom, and she wants her stardom. Harry has always been the star. He was born into it. He did not have to work for it or suffer for it. And he expects it to continue. It is just in his blood at this point.

With each rise of Meghan's stardom, Harry could feel increasingly threatened. He may not mean for this to happen, and he may not want for this to happen. He may not want to feel this way about the whole thing, but it could feel threatening anyway. It is a human thing. 

Meghan is the key to how they maneuver themselves in this situation. The first thing she is going to need to do, is put her marriage well above her own ego, and her own desire for fame and glory. Yes, she desires fame and glory because, again, that is her destiny. She can taste it now, all the work she put into herself since she was 11 years old. And it is almost unfair to ask her to hold back a little bit just so that her husband (or anybody) does not feel overshadowed.

Well, it is well understood, but she is going to have to make a choice. Is it going to be her marriage? Or her fame? If it is her marriage, she has to study Kelly Ripa. Kelly Ripa is a woman who understood that her career success and fame could have torpedoed her marriage to Mark Consuelos. When Kelly got her job on Live With Regis and Kelly, she was very, very careful about including her husband, pushing him up, praising him, using "we" rather than "me" language, and otherwise sending the message to the world and to her husband that HE WAS IN CHARGE.

Meghan is a different woman than Kelly Ripa, I understand that. She is a feminist and there is no such thing as a man being in charge for many feminists. They insist on "equality." In a relationship, this can be problematic. No matter what men say, they want their wives a few notches below them. So, Meghan has to fake it if she cannot yield to this idea naturally. She really does. Men need to be in charge, and the more public the marriage, the more important this is. In Harry's case, being a member of the most visible royal family on the planet, the situation has just become 100 times more complicated. (And she has to understand that it is just a perception that she has to convey to her husband. She can run the show, but Harry must think it is he who is running the show.)

Because these two will begin to compete. I'm sure. Harry will do it more because he is male and this is their nature, but also because he was the famous one and it is through him that Meghan went stratospheric. Let's be honest. So if it ever appears that she usurps and surpasses him in fame, this is going to bring out his natural competitive streak, and if she responds incorrectly, this could destroy their marriage.

I hope she is smart enough not to let this happen.

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