Harry and Meghan are having a tough time in their marriage right now because they are going through a lot. Since they got married, it has been hard for them to find a little bit of peace and a little reprieve. Even after fleeing Kensington Palace, then Frogmore Cottage and then the house in Canada, and then Tyler Perry's house in Beverly Hills to their abode in Montecito, it is hard for the Sussexes to find true peace.
Why? Because people will not leave them alone to let them live their lives. Well, not people. I should say demons. Only demons would be this unstopping and heartless as to harass two people simply because they chose each other as husband and wife.
The Sussexes are strong but they are not stone. They need help to maneuver all this stress and maintain the health and integrity of their marital union.
Meghan gets the brunt of the hate but Harry is not immune. He blames himself for getting Meghan into this situation. He should have thought this all the way through and even if she was the love of his life, and the only woman he would have ever loved, he should have loved her enough not to put her in this situation. He knows. Because he is not a baby and he has been in the family and in the world. He is not oblivious. He may have tried to be oblivious and he may have tried to ignore certain truths. But deep down, he knew the world he lived in and so, for that reason, he should never have asked Meghan to marry him, or, he should have done things differently. This is the burden he carries.
On Meghan's side, knowing what she knew about the world she lived in when this man came on bended knee in his cottage in Kensington Palace to ask for her hand in marriage, she should have been wise enough and clairvoyant enough to predict this outcome and declined. Indeed, she never should have gone on the date in the first place because she ought to have known it would only lead to trouble and headaches.
But okay. They loved each other and neither of them could walk away. Then elope to Vegas for god's sake! Don't have this big public spectacle of a wedding. And live off-grid for a while, if not forever. He could have done that. They could have married in Vegas and not even tell a soul. People would have found out in the grapevine after a few years had gone by. Meanwhile, they could have been living someplace like Botswana, or New Zealand or Rhode Island, or Nevis. No one would have been the wiser. When Harry needed to make royal engagements, he could have gone to England without Meghan and his children to take care of business.
He would still be paid his salary by his father and he would still have his HRH. And his secret wife and children would have been safe because nobody would have been the wiser.
The mistake he made, perhaps the biggest mistake, was not falling in love with Meghan, but doing it the way he did, making it so public, introducing her the way he did to the whole country with those parades and putting her in the glare of the spotlight like that. This was Harry's big mistake.
Meghan is sensitive and she is proud. She also has a very complicated family situation. All of that should have been discussed, analyzed, and troubleshot before she was exposed to the public in this way. It is a lot of hate for anyone to bear and it is coming from so many directions. How can she remain positive and happy in the face of all of this?
Before the cameras, they put on a brave face. They hold hands and act like everything is fine while getting criticized for being too needy of each other. Behind the scenes, one can only hope they are not blaming each other. But chances are, even if they don't say it aloud, it is in their minds and nothing eats away at love like the stuff you have in your mind that you won't or can't fess up to your partner.
They will have to love extra, and it is very rare that such extra love exists between anybody. But being rare is not necessarily to be impossible. It will just take so much work, sensitivity, strategy, and awareness for them to succeed in this marital contract. They are going to really have to work at it for the rest of their lives to avoid divorce. They will have to really work at putting each other and their relationship first.
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