What is a good wife? What is a good mom?
A lot of married women and mothers feel a lot of guilt and angst about their roles as wives and mothers. The Duchess of Sussex is no different. On her podcast Archetypes, she discusses the challenges many women face in these roles, and to some extent, her own personal challenges.
And she shared a little bit about a typical day in her life, which was really cool. She describes it as a whirlwind, and it sounded a little bit more frantic than I had imagined when I wrote the post linked above. Because I never even took into account her four dogs!
In the podcast, the Duchess discusses how helpful her husband the Duke of Sussex is, in helping her with the morning frenzy and taking care of the kids. The way she says "my husband" is so adorable. You can tell how much she loves and respects this man.
Some women have criticized her for always referring to her mate in this way, as "my husband." I think it is very beautiful. Harry also talks about "my wife" a lot. They are committed to each other and think of each other, and defer to each other a lot. To me, this is a sign of a "good" relationship.
It may be jarring for others to hear her speak of her husband as much if they are not in such a good place in their own marriage. Megyn Kelly, the American journalist, apparently was rather perturbed when the Duchess references her "husband," and she even called Harry a "Gorilla." We can all be lucky she stopped short of calling Meghan a "monkey." Although, that will surely come before long.
What Meghan said is right, though. For each person, what constitutes a "good wife" or a "good mom" is personal and particular. Everyone is learning on the job. Most are doing the best they can with what they've got. She also says we should all be less judgmental of each other. I could not agree more.
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